Professional · 07. May 2026

Trauma-oriented healing communities can create profound connection and attachment repair, but the same vulnerability that fosters healing can also allow unresolved relational enactments to emerge in ethically concerning ways. This article explores how blurred boundaries, attachment dynamics, and unmet emotional needs can subtly migrate into professional healing spaces and why greater reflective accountability within these communities matters.

Relationships · 09. March 2026

In a new blog post, I reflect on a relationship that ended about eight months ago, what it revealed about my own parts, and how learning to care for the vulnerable parts beneath them changed how I understand love, grief, and responsibility.

Transformation · 02. March 2026

I recently watched Marty Supreme, starring Timothée Chalamet, and found myself reflecting on the psychology of the character he portrays.

Honesty · 20. July 2022

When we speak about honesty, especially in relationship, we often speak about lies. Big lies, small lies and how they affect the relationship. Over the past months the term Honesty has begun to take on new meaning for me. My mentor, Dr. Thomas Needham refers to the "journey of honesty" in therapy. What does that mean? Often in therapy, clients come in for a particular symptom in need of relief and when they stick around long enough, they discover that the original problem was not the actual...

The Pain of Growth · 05. July 2022

As I began to experience my feelings, I began to experience the shame because the two were inextricably linked for me. Shame pushed me away from the ones that really cared for me, that actually loved me.

Choosing What Matters · 26. January 2022

"I was gonna say, The problem is they know what matters, but they don't choose it. You know how hard that is, Lily? I love May, but it was still so hard to choose Caribbean Pink. The hardest thing on earth is choosing what matters." Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees This time of year as a therapist is perhaps one of the busiest. There is something about the holidays that bring a lot of issues to the surface that people finally decide to tackle. I suspect that the holidays bring us face to...

Masculinity · 18. July 2021

While playing football, the parts of me that longed for significance had to make sure that other parts of me never saw the light of day. Later in life I eventually learned to value my previously shunned vulnerable parts far more than the tough, rugged parts.

Forgiveness and Understanding · 14. May 2021

“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” ― Desmond Tutu

Unburdening · 18. April 2021

A quote that I recently read stated, "When you make a list of things that you love, how long does it take for you to list yourself?" There is nothing that gives me more joy in the therapist office that to have clients share how they feel lighter, easy, and have more room to breath among other similar statements.

Disappointment · 28. March 2021

"To be known or recognized is to immediately experience the other's power. The other becomes the one who can give or withhold recognition: who can see what is hidden; who can reach, conceivably even violate, the core of the self" Jessica Benjamin